#video2

Today I watched short film about how to become someone people will confide in. We can all agree that being open minded, generous and having empathy really helps.

But this video showed it is simply not enough. We have to give people something that they could use against us so they can feel safe while giving us the same. First, let’s start with how we can signal our capacities to others? Most of the people give via direct assertions for example : ,,Don’t worry I won’t judge” or ,,You can tell me I’m a very understanding”. Building trust usually function in an incremental way. First person have to reveal a small, not too awful fact about them. Then it’s natural for a second person to share their struggles. We as a people who want to be seen as a genuine have to take boulder step and admit to something more significantly awkward. This method will show our listener that they can trust us more and open wider. It’s good to express our broken and floated sides so it will ensure them mental comfort and opening up for them will get easier.

Vulnerabilities - Talking with people is a cure 

for loneliness and for vulnerability.

Flaw - This is one flaw in your logic.

Commiserate - If you want someone to commiserate with, I am here!

Confide in - I am so glad you feel you could confide in me.

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#video1

I recently watched a very interesting video which answered the question why we are mean to those we love.In fact, when we are putting so much energy, involvement and time into one person we expect them in return to understand, love and show the support all the time.We become so real and honest with them sometimes almost forgetting that no one is perfect and that words can be really harmful. We should keep in mind no one can succeed in everything  and we shouldn’t make love harder then it’s already is.

Wiser - One day, when you're older and wiser, you'll understand.

Intemperate - She was shocked but her reaction was super intemperate.

Unleash - I won't let you unleash them into this world.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=y_sopRiMkN4

Limerick 1 and 2

There was a man and he seemed really kind 

Life challenged him and tricked his mind 

He supposed to be sad 

Jealous people were mad 

He could appreciate life even he was blind 

There was a man laying on the floor 

He always used to be poor

But now things have changed 

Something is ticking strange 

Love knocked to his door 

Reflections#05

Yesterday I watched video one of really famous american YouTuber . She was talking about the lack of healthy models in fashion industry. She also told her a story about getting her first job as a plus size model. While she was on the lower end of healthy BMI. She felt incredibly intimidated and indignant and to be honest I don’t blame her. I felt the same way during watching this short video and that made me think fashion industries considers plus-sizes as something that is completely healthy.

I read some statistics and they showed that 94% of all fashion models that we can see in the runways, magazines, pictures etc are under weight. That perfectly show us the type of female body that the fashion industry approves and that is an under weight female body. For me it would make more sense if fashion industries used healthy, "normal" BMI models with the exceptions of under and overweight models. To somehow represent these type of woman. Overwhelming majority of models being used are extremely skinny and they are used to represent all women. As a young impressionable teenager i also get affected by the images, movies and all the media that I see on daily bases . I am also willing to judge myself more of how many imperfections my body has comparing to this " TV models". It can shape our opinions and I think that’s why our expectations are so high. Moreover I reckon that  it has cost so many people ending up with eating disorders. It is such a toxic mental illness and I am personally a huge believer that the majority of eating disorders are caused by our unhealthy society. The way that woman are presented in media it’s not the models fault at all. Fashion brands and designers are the ones that are requesting for modeling agencies to give them underweight models. They do not accept a female body that has few extra pounds. It has to be noted that fashion industries have just 2 types of models bodies. The emaciated ones and plus sizes ones. It is worth mentioning that a lot of models are from low-income families from rural areas. They are just looking for the opportunity to get out of poverty and if they’re gonna have to starve to do that, they will. I am not surprised at all because whenever designers or fashion brands hire an underweight fashion models they create some kind of demand for the body type.

It’s important to point it out and verbalize it to make more people see how abnormal this whole fashion industry is and how much improvement has to be done.

Reflections#04

I was always saying that time slips through our fingers like sand. People repeat that they will do things everyday and they are ending up with postponing things until the following days...weeks...years 

Most human beings get about 75 years of existence. Third of those years we spend sleeping. Last dozen years gives us variety of choice and allowed us to get easier access to things that catch our interest. 

Few days ago I was reading article about what people do with the remaining time. What’s sad it’s proved that people during this dozen years got really lazy and they started to waste time even more.

It’s unthinkable how much time ( counting in years) people spend using their phones or watching random trivia. If you can’t remember what you have been doing last week that means you didn’t do anything valuable at all. 

Reflections#03

How should we define changes? 
Do we want them or they just come when the time passes?
Few days ago I was talking to my friend about people who don’t see problems in certain things or even worse when they don’t know how to face them. That made me think that that’s the case why people are so afraid of changes in general. They don’t want to risk what they already have. 

Everyone at least ones stems up on the crossroad and thought about ways which to choose. We are more likely to choose side where we are struggling with ourselves and push our boundaries to be the best at first. What is sad, when we don’t see results we turn back and pick side where we just accept they we can’t change anything and that it is how it is.
Worth mentioning is fact that those paths are not the only we can take. It’s called self-acceptance and is the most important thing if we are talking about changes. In contrast to ego that puts pressure and compares to get better ever time we should think about the way we implement our goals.

 We also have to answer question if rational decision are the same as internal choices. Moreover, it’s not important how fast we achieve the aim but how much we are going to pay and if we are going to be happy after all!

Reflections#02

Yesterday I experienced the pain that I never felt before...I was hurt by someone really special for me. Dead butterflies in my stomach, sore eyes because of ocean of tears an my heart empty like a straw beating faster than ever. I spent day in my bed debilitated by loss hearing loud voice in my head. He wanted me to talk, scream and express everything what was deep down never said before. 
That made me think that our lives are driven by emotions. 

It’s easier to talk when we are angry but we often regret after all. A dozen different thoughts tear through us each second and it’s hard to escape sometimes. Everyone always say that it’s good to talk but it’s more important to know how. Before having a serious conversation we have to ask ourselves few things: 
1. What happened and what are all the facts we got  
2. What do we feel and how we were affected 
3. What are our needs and which values were violated 

When we realize this stuff we will be able to hold our nerves, be focused of what we want to achieve and simply hold talks. We will meet our goals that are based on our values not emotions.