Yesterday I experienced the pain that I never felt before...I was hurt by someone really special for me. Dead butterflies in my stomach, sore eyes because of ocean of tears an my heart empty like a straw beating faster than ever. I spent day in my bed debilitated by loss hearing loud voice in my head. He wanted me to talk, scream and express everything what was deep down never said before.
That made me think that our lives are driven by emotions.
It’s easier to talk when we are angry but we often regret after all. A dozen different thoughts tear through us each second and it’s hard to escape sometimes. Everyone always say that it’s good to talk but it’s more important to know how. Before having a serious conversation we have to ask ourselves few things:
1. What happened and what are all the facts we got
2. What do we feel and how we were affected
3. What are our needs and which values were violated
When we realize this stuff we will be able to hold our nerves, be focused of what we want to achieve and simply hold talks. We will meet our goals that are based on our values not emotions.
I wonder whether the three steps you describe are your own invention or you've taken them from somewhere?
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