Today I watched short film about how to become someone people will confide in. We can all agree that being open minded, generous and having empathy really helps.
But this video showed it is simply not enough. We have to give people something that they could use against us so they can feel safe while giving us the same. First, let’s start with how we can signal our capacities to others? Most of the people give via direct assertions for example : ,,Don’t worry I won’t judge” or ,,You can tell me I’m a very understanding”. Building trust usually function in an incremental way. First person have to reveal a small, not too awful fact about them. Then it’s natural for a second person to share their struggles. We as a people who want to be seen as a genuine have to take boulder step and admit to something more significantly awkward. This method will show our listener that they can trust us more and open wider. It’s good to express our broken and floated sides so it will ensure them mental comfort and opening up for them will get easier.
Vulnerabilities - Talking with people is a cure
for loneliness and for vulnerability.
Flaw - This is one flaw in your logic.
Commiserate - If you want someone to commiserate with, I am here!
Confide in - I am so glad you feel you could confide in me.
So it works like an exchange of weaknesses - I'll show you mine so that you feel encouraged to show me yours.
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